Simple Seven Day Plan To Attract More Friends

I really like this post. It’s something I’ve been working on. Particularly on writing comments and emails. I find that sometimes I have to remind myself to acknowledge a person before I respond to what they last said.

This is a keeper, Mike.

Mike, can’t agree with you more on the value of friends to leading a happy life. I do believe listening is one of the more important aspects of getting and keeping friends (your day six) - when I’m with groups at dinners or other types of small gatherings I always ask everyone to tell me “one thing about themselves nobody knows”. You find out the most interesting things you’d ordinarily never ask about, and you have a “benchmark” for that person that almost always deepens the connection, and in many instances leads to a closer friendship. Thanks for sharing this system.

I’m new to computers (3 years self-taught)and I’m a proto-blogger (nice euphemism for “newbie”, eh). As I’ve only been blogging for two months I have been on the hunt for blog articles exactly like your own. Thanks so much for writing it.:)

This is something I have tried to teach the younger women and college age girls in our church. So many of them are sad and lonely, and wish they felt more connected, wish they had more friends.

After a few months of this, they begin to complain that they are not in the “in crowd” of our church, and that the problem is a church problem. They wan to be called, to be fawned over, to be treated with importance, to be valued, to be loved.

So here is the hard part: none of these things are bad things to want! They are good things to want! But even thought it is an expression, and no one listens to expressions anymore, the key to having friends is being a friend. You cannot stand in a corner scowling at everyone because no one is being nice to you! It is a self-perpetuating problem. No one comes to talk to scowly girl in corner, scowly girl feels left out and hurt and angry, scowly girl complains to anyone that does try to befriend her, scowly girl eventually leaves church because it was too “clicky” and no one would be her friend!

I love your list. It is practical and doable, and people can only benefit from it. My I shamelessly borrow it for the benefit of the above mentioned “scowlies” in my life. I think it will really help them get out of the cycle and find the friends they really want.

Egana at Egana’s Tapdance http://egana.wordpress.com

Thanks, I am glad you like it. It is a fun theme and I was lucky to find it right off, so I didn’t have to go through theme after theme after theme, redesigning and tweaking and so forth… Wordpress makes it easy on us “digitally estranged” types.

I am enjoying blogging, and the expanded discussions blogging makes available, like this one…

After my initial response (above) I thought further about your list. I think the list as a “list of things to do, to get what you want, which ultimately is more friends” begs the question:

How would a person apply this in a virtual environment? This action list (which, by the way, draws a person out of themselves and encourages them to think about and give of themselves to others) is pretty focused on interaction with other people in real time and a real area. I would be interested in comments that made application for interactions with people online, the bloggers, the emailers, the chatters, the virtual people? Anyone?